Honest long-form pieces about fatherhood, separation, and the work of being a man worth following. Written from lived experience.
How to tell your kids you're separating. What to say, what to leave out, and what they actually need to hear. There's no version of this conversation that doesn't hurt — but there's a way to do it that they can carry.
It usually arrives as a text. What the law in Australia actually says, what not to do tonight, and the four steps that get you back in the room.
It's usually the first practical question, and it comes up on the first night. The short answer, what moving out does and doesn't change, and the one rule for the first week.
The hardest part of the first month after separation isn't what you think it is. A father's honest take on the first weeks alone in the house, and what actually helps.
There's a grief in separation that no one talks about: losing the future you imagined. A reflection on the deeper sadness underneath divorce.
If these helped, I'll send you the first of my five separation guides now, then one a week, and a short note every Thursday.
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