BetterDads — Know yourself. Show up. Keep going.

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What's going on right now?

Pick the one that lands closest. Four doors in, depending on what you need right now.

I'm just starting to ask the questions

The Audit. Six questions across body, mind, spirit, partner, mates, father. Four minutes, scored, with the one move for this week.

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If this is you

I'm going through separation

A 30-action roadmap for the first month, then a four-stage track — Rebuild → Recharge → Reconnect → Rise — when you're ready.

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If this is you

I lost it again. I need to repair.

A way back — with your kids, your partner, or yourself. The sentence to say. The way to come back into the room.

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If this is you

I'm ready to do the real work

Foundation — 28 days, 20 minutes a day. Know your triggers, your patterns, your strengths. The deepest cut. Free.

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Not sure which one? Start with whatever feels closest. None of them are locked. You can always change track.

What this is

A place for men who give a damn.

This isn't just for the tough times. It's for any man who wants to understand himself better, show up for the people he loves, and keep growing — whether life is going well or falling apart.

My story

I didn't see it coming.

In 2009 my wife stopped me on my way to work and said she didn't love me anymore. I bloody nearly fell over. We had a four-year-old daughter and a three-year-old son.

To be honest, it completely fucked me. I had this concept of what my family was going to be. Having that stripped away from me and not being able to live with my kids — that was so heavy to manage.

I moved out to a rented place on Sydney's Northern Beaches, close enough to keep them in sight. I woke up one day in that new house with no furniture, on a foam mattress in a sleeping bag. I was ready to take my boot-laces out and find the closest rafter.

If you're there right now, call Lifeline 13 11 14 or MensLine 1300 78 99 78. They pick up.

My old man told me to see a counsellor. I was furious. I went anyway. Best thing I ever did.

The 33-year-old me on that foam mattress needed someone to tell him what worked — without bullshit, without selling him anything, without being too American or too soft.

That's why this site exists.

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Alex's full story features in The Father Hood: Inspiration for the New Dad Generation (Benedictus, Macvean & McUtchen — Penguin, 2019). Read the original chapter →

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The 5 things your kids
actually need from you.

Most men grow up believing the job is to provide. It's not wrong. It's just incomplete. This short, practical guide cuts through the noise — five things your kids actually need from you, and why nobody told you.

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The 5 Things Your Kids Need From You

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Each week we release a new interview — honest conversations with men who've been there. Elite athletes, decorated soldiers, broadcasters, entrepreneurs — on what it actually takes.